Gary Zimak explains how a caller can help her fiancé work through his abandonment issues by emphasizing the importance of living in the present moment with a healthy level of detachment from the past and future.
Transcript:
Host: Alicia in Dallas, Texas, listening on Guadalupe Radio, your question for Gary Zimak.
Caller: Ah, yes, I was actually calling on behalf of, well, myself and my fiancé. He’s actually always worried about me leaving him, only because he has a history of most of his family members leaving him from the past, like his mom started doing bad and she left him, and then his grandma raised him, and then after a while she had, you know, she couldn’t raise him any more ’cause she was getting older, so she had to leave him with his mom again, and so just back and forth everywhere, like a lot of his family members leaving him. So how do I reassure him, like, that I’m not going anywhere? What would be a good way?
Gary: Very good question. Very good question, Alicia. This is this is a problem that a lot of people have. Essentially what’s happening is, he is worried, possibly, about things that have happened in the past. The past was the past, you have to just reassure him, “No, I’m not going to leave you,” and it’s just a matter of learning to live in the present moment. That is a huge problem for those of us who tend to be anxious. Live in the present moment. The past is the past. The devil wants you to dwell on the past, and he wants you to worry about the future. God wants you in the present moment. It’s challenging, though. Right, Cy? But one day at a time, and focus as best as you can on the present.
Host: Alicia, do you think that will help him?
Caller: Yes, very much so. Thank you.
Host: Oh, very good. Very glad you called. Thank you very much, Alicia, for that call.