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I infer you’re speaking of honoring the memory of someone who has died and who apparently wasn’t Catholic. Given that the Protestant church in question has teaching at odds with Catholicism to one extent or another, I would instead counsel you do one of three things:
1. Give to a non-religious charity your friend/relative supported, and let their family know that.
2. Give to a good Catholic cause in honor of your friend/relative, in which you case you may not want to let the family know, at least during their time of bereavement
3. Have a Mass or Masses offered for the repose of the person’s soul, particularly if he or she is indeed not Catholic.
Regarding the first option, if you’re not sure, you could discretely ask someone who was a mutual friend. Regarding the third option, that might be your best choice, and all concerned may one day be very grateful for your consideration, even if they may not appreciate it at the moment.