What Is Allowed Within the Marriage Act

Not embarrassing, but very private. As long as complete natural relations are being or have been performed, you or your husband may help you achieve satisfaction manually. But this must be done in the context of the complete relations, not at a separate time from them. This is because, morally speaking, this stimulation is part of the same act of intercourse. In such a case it is not the sin of masturbation, but simply the completion of natural relations. You or your husband do not have to do this, but it may be more considerate on his part toward you. The same does not apply in the case of you helping your husband: then it is permissible only to help him to be ready to perform the act of intercourse beforehand, but not to complete it.