Keep Lines Open to Gender-Confused Daughter
Our daughter has been battling mental illness for more than six years (in and out of hospitals). Now she says she is "gender-queer" and wants us to call her by her new name. Do we need to honor this request?
The most important thing is that you keep up loving communication with your daughter. I would suggest that you call her by whatever name she asks you to, so that she will not cut off talking with you. In these very difficult challenges it is good to avoid unecessary drama!
I also suggest that you very gently ask her "permission" to use the name you gave her at birth also, since the name you gave her was given in love. This could keep the door open, reminding her in a non-aggressive way of her true and original identity as a woman and as your daughter. This will pass, but not without some sorrow and humiliation. I am praying for you and for her. There is so much confusion in our days. May Our Lady bring her healing and peace. Let's pray the rosary especially for her needs.