Why doesn't God give me the grace to overcome my quick temper?


Full Question

I'm a practicing Catholic but can't seem to knock a quick temperament. I can be praying one second and yelling the next. I beg God for grace to overcome my faults, but why is it so long in forthcoming?

Answer

Your quick temper is your way to heaven. It is the cross that you need. Our crosses do us the favor of continually reminding us that we need him. They humble us by showing us how self-centered we are. We need to live our lives on his terms—not ours. I suggest that you spend some time daily going over in your mind all the ways he suffered for you on Good Friday and thank him. That God would allow himself to suffer to such a degree for people he created from nothing—and then die for them—is far more generosity than you and I can imagine. Nothing can bring us some perspective faster than this.


Fr. Vincent Serpa O.P.