Is there a way I can communicate with my deceased father?


Full Question

My father died eight years ago, leaving behind a dysfunctional family. I have not gotten over his death: At the end I ignored some phone calls from him and continue to feel guilt because I missed out on the chance to heal. He wasn’t a good husband or father for most of my life, but I truly believe he was trying to make amends. He was baptized and confirmed into the Church about 10 years before his death. Where is he now? If I try to talk to him, can he hear me? In the years since his death, I saw him once in a dream in a corner of a room and then he disappeared. Today I felt his presence. I don’t expect séance-like communication, but I need to feel that we have healed. Is that possible?

Answer

When we receive our Lord in Holy Communion, we are not only physically aware with our union with him, but also with each other, including our deceased loved ones. Insofar as they are in union with him, they are in union with us. But, of course, our first reason for receiving the Eucharist is to be in Communion with our Blessed Lord.


Fr. Vincent Serpa O.P.