Have Sacraments, Will Travel

August 13, 2014 | 13 comments

I was flipping through the National Catholic Reporter recently and paused when I came to the letters to the editor (July 18–31). While NCR is a good source of reporting on Catholic affairs, its editorial slant very much leans left, and the readership often reflects that perspective. Sometimes the letters can be quite entertaining, and this time was no exception—at first glance, anyway.

A reader wrote in response to a previous issue's article on "the excommunication of leaders of We Are Church in Austria (NCR, June 6–19)," the excommunication levied because the group attempted to celebrate Mass without a priest. The reader sympathized with the problems experienced by those "who treasure the Mass but are deprived of attendance for an extended period" and explained how he and his wife celebrate "a memorial, not Mass" that "is a good reminder of who we are." He stated:

My wife and I are 92 and 90 years of age. For years, we attended daily Mass. Now in a retirement home and without a car, that is no longer possible. But we want to keep a sense of frequent Mass alive.

We have a ceramic marriage cup that is a suitable chalice. We always have wine in our apartment. No bread, but Ritz crackers. A battery-operated candle. A small towel topped with a Kleenex is a suitable altar cloth. The desk is almost altar-like.

We have a booklet with the ordinary prayers of the Mass and we choose our own Scripture readings.

We know it isn't a Mass, but it is a memorial. As we break the Ritz-host we say, "We are the body of Christ." In drinking from the wedding cup, we say, "And we remember the blood of Christ."

Not a word from the editor in comment on this quasi-liturgical "service" that mimics a Mass, which was offered by the presumably Catholic reader with the intent of encouraging other Catholics to go and do likewise. And where is this spiritual wasteland where this couple evidently is entirely unable to go to Mass, and even prevented from channel-surfing to find a televised Mass? The reader writes to NCR from Seattle, Washington.

It would be easy to snicker over the details of this account, which sounds for all the world like the kind of pretend liturgy that small children would create for an afternoon's play. Ritz crackers? A battery-operated candle? Kleenex on a towel on a desk? Yes, indeed, I could enjoy a chortle or two, but for one small detail:

My wife and I are 92 and 90 years of age. For years, we attended daily Mass. Now in a retirement home and without a car, that is no longer possible.

When I picture two nonagenarians carefully arranging a "memorial liturgy" and munching on Ritz crackers because they no longer have transportation to Mass, the scene I see is just too heartbreaking for laughter. A quick eye-roll perhaps over how this sad little rite is said to remind these two of "who we are" (as distinguished from remembering who God is), but no more. Because then it is time to get angry for them.

Why are these two elderly Catholics entirely cut off from the sacraments? When they stopped attending daily Mass, did no one notice? Or care? Did the parish where they attended daily Mass "for years" follow up to find out what had become of this couple before crossing their names off the list of families to receive envelopes? Did the bulletins they presumably received for years ever mention how homebound parishioners or their caregivers could arrange to receive the sacraments?

Evidently not. And so two 90-something Catholics are left to nibble on make-believe hosts by the light of a battery-operated candle.

Homebound on a Sunday morning

I often hear from Catholics wondering what to do when they are unable to go to Mass anymore. They want to know if they are sinning by missing Mass on Sundays. Or I will hear from adult children wanting to know if their parents are sinning. I never hear from parishes wanting to know what they can do to help homebound Catholics receive the sacraments.

Not only that, but I also hear from Catholics trying to arrange pastoral care to the homebound who are pushed away. Let me tell you one such story.

A few years ago, a friend was regularly visiting a gentleman who was even older than the couple in the retirement home. His end was near; although he wasn't Catholic, he wanted to see a priest. The problem was that he had dementia and his times of lucidity could not be anticipated.

My friend called several parishes in our area, searching for a priest willing to come out and talk to her friend. She even begged one priest in person. Not one was willing to visit the gentleman because the patient's lucidity could not be guaranteed. Finally, a mutual friend recommended our diocese's FSSP parish. Sure enough, one of the priests there immediately agreed to visit, and ultimately spent hours at a time over several days visiting my friend's friend—and visiting other patients in the facility too when the patient he was there to see was not lucid enough to talk.

What appalled my friend (and what appalled me upon hearing the story) was how difficult it was to get a priest to make time to visit a dying man who indicated that he wanted to see a priest. Sure, we both know that priests are incredibly busy—but I doubt they were any more busy than the priest who finally agreed and who found ways to make good use of the time he had to wait to talk with the patient.

Non-Christians at the wheel

Not long after that experience, I heard of a transportation program of the local Jewish Family Services. This program, called On the Go, ferries seniors aged 60 and over to appointments around the city. Not only will the service take seniors to doctor appointments and for errands, but they will take seniors to religious services and even (I learned when I looked into the program) down to the docks to catch a cruise ship. And they offer this service not just to Jewish families but to all San Diego seniors, regardless of religious affiliation. Which means that Catholic seniors in San Diego can get rides to Mass from a non-Christian charitable organization—if they happen to know of its availability.

Why is it, I had to ask myself, that there is no equivalent Catholic group that I know of that is stepping up to the plate to get Catholic seniors in their local communities to Mass?

To catch a good thief

Frankly, the lack of ordinary care among Catholics for those unable to attend Mass and receive the other sacraments on their own is appalling. And it is nothing new. Allow me to share one more story.

In his memoir, Treasure in Clay, Bishop Fulton Sheen tells of a parish he visited in a poor neighborhood that had received a gift of $10,000 to build a shrine dedicated to the Blessed Mother. When Sheen questioned the size of the gift and the ability of anyone in the parish to afford such a donation, the pastor said the money came from the sister of an elderly former bank robber (now released from prison and living with his sister), probably as conscience money given as a way of making up for her brother's notorious life. Sheen asked if the pastor had ever tried to talk to the robber about making his peace with God. The pastor said no.

So Sheen went to visit the elderly bank robber himself. The man was uninterested in Sheen's efforts. It had been seventy years since the man's last confession and he thought it would be cowardly to ask God to forgive him at the very end of his life. Sheen recounts what happened next:

"Well," I said, "let us see how brave you are tomorrow morning. I will come here to your door at eight o'clock. I will not be alone; I will bring the good Lord with me in the Blessed Sacrament. I am sure that you will not turn us both away."

When I returned in the morning, he opened the door. I heard his confession and gave him Communion—which proved to be viaticum because he died the next day. He was not the first thief the Lord saved on his last day (p. 204, e-book edition).

What can be done

Yes, priests are very busy, and not every one of them will have Bishop Fulton Sheen's drive to search out lost sheep to bring them home. (They should at least desire that drive, but it is a gift, and even as a gift it requires developing a knack.) But there are some things I think all priests can do, both to reach out to those in need and to encourage their parishioners to help in the effort.

  • Use the media. The parish bulletin, newsletter, website, and/or Facebook page should all have a standard notice of how the homebound within the parish boundaries can approach the parish for the sacraments. Information on how to receive Communion to the homebound, and how to arrange for clergy visits for confession and anointing of the sick for the homebound, should be standard on every media platform a parish maintains. It is not enough to say that confession is available "by appointment" or to offer an "emergency phone number." People need the procedure spelled out and repeated often.
  • Make welfare checks. If a family is about to be crossed off the parish's list of registered families because they haven't used their envelopes in a while, someone at the parish should be assigned to call and ask how the family is doing. I once fielded a question from a person who was appalled that her elderly parents, founding members of their parish, had been told that they were no longer "eligible" to have funeral services at that parish when the time came because they hadn't used their envelopes in years and thus were thought to no longer be parishioners. Turns out they were homebound and in straitened circumstances, no longer able to donate to the parish.
  • Create ride-share programs. If a Jewish charitable organization can create a transportation program and, as part of the program, take Catholics to Mass, there is no reason why Catholics should not be finding ways to reach out to fellow Catholics in their area to offer rides to Mass. Period. And priests are the ones who should be encouraging their parishioners to organize such an effort.
  • Go the extra mile. A Catholic should not have to call three parishes begging priests to visit the dying, desperately searching for one who will agree. Parishes should have a plan in place to handle such requests before they arise. If an extraordinary minister or a deacon can be dispatched to assess the situation first, that's fine. But if a priest is needed, then the parish should figure out a plan of action to arrange coverage for its priests when the priests must go out on unexpected sick calls. Having a plan in place now means that a priest may have the ability to say at some point, "Yes, of course, let me grab my stole, oils, and a consecrated host, and I'll be right over."

The bottom line is that every Catholic should be confident that nothing more than a brief phone call is necessary to arrange for needed pastoral care, either for himself or for his loved ones. No one should be left alone with a Ritz cracker and a battery-operated candle to suffice as a "memorial" of the sacraments.

Note: A version of this essay originally appeared on the blog, Peace, Joy, Pancakes (7/21/14). It is republished here with permission.


Michelle Arnold is a staff apologist at Catholic Answers. You can visit her personal blog or contact her online through Facebook.
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Comments by Catholic.com Members

#1  Heather Carter - Fort Worth, Texas

People in nursing homes especially age 90 usually are not well enough to attend Mass. We have a ministry to the sick and home bound in our parish where Extraordinary Ministers if the Eucharist are trained and approved to take the Eucharist to area nursing homes and conduct a communion service for the residents every Sunday. We also take the Eucharist to private homes and Hospitals from Sick parishioners who request it. We have 70 lay people that are a part of this in a parish of 18,000 families. We have 3 priests. There is no way that 3 priests could serve the 7 nursing homes and 4 hospitals on Sunday and still perform 6 masses at our parish. I hope that someone out there who is in need of this ministry for their parish will look into this option so that all Catholics can receive Holy Communion on Sundays!

August 13, 2014 at 9:26 am PST
#2  Sean Ahern - Oak Ridge, Tennessee

As the Deputy Grand Knight in my local Knights of Columbus council, let me suggest that the ride-share program would be a wonderful service for the parish Knights to take on.

August 13, 2014 at 9:31 am PST
#3  Denny Haney - Wylie, Texas

Makes me appreciate all Extraordinary Ministers who go to the homes of the elderly. Also, that Bishop Fulton Sheen account - wow!!!!

August 13, 2014 at 9:42 am PST
#4  Michelle Arnold - El Cajon, California - Catholic Answers Blogger

Heather: I was commenting only on one specific case, in which the letter writer specifically stated that it was a lack of transportation that prevented him and his wife from going to Mass. While it is true that many in their 90s may have other reasons for not being able to attend Mass, some may simply lack transportation.

Sean: I hope that you will suggest such a program to your brother Knights as a service for the Knights to take on. I think that would be wonderful!

August 13, 2014 at 9:50 am PST
#5  Lee Harris - Milwaukie, Oregon

Wow indeed, Denny! I think that especially Priests, but also lay people should desire to have that drive of Ven. Fulton Sheen to bring people home. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the concerns of this life and to lose the heart and mind of Christ to "seek and save that which was lost." May God purify our hearts and ignite us with zeal for souls. Great article, Michelle. So many of us lay people really need to step up our effort to meet the needs around us, to live the spiritual and corporal acts of mercy.

August 13, 2014 at 10:15 am PST
#6  Matthew Seymour - Long Beach, California

What has happened to Our Blessed Church? Our Good Lord Jesus Christ is full of Mercy and Love, yes? And we reject Him!!!

August 13, 2014 at 10:24 am PST
#7  Michael Rogala - Chicago, Illinois

Michelle, I applaud your indignation. The problem is critical. There are parishes that have good cadres of Eucharistic Ministers, but not all parishes. The US, quite frankly, is ahead of many other countries in this respect inspite of what many say is our increasing secularization.

When it comes to religious observances in many countries . .i . unless the seniors live with the family . . . most notably in Catholic and Orthodox Mediteranean . . . religious traditions fall by wayside.

There still is, however, a shortage of priests, although it is within the Tradition to have a Deacon's "Mass", where the Elements are consecrated ahead of time by a priest.

Our Episcopal sisters and brothers have an interesting concept. Persons are selected and "ordained" to just administer the sacraments in those areas where there are shortages. Might be something to look into until the time where women will be ordained.

August 13, 2014 at 8:25 pm PST
#8  mary martinez - west sacramento, California

I experienced this exact situation 2 yrs ago when at 43 I was struck by an illness so severe that I had to be admitted to a care facility. I was connected to medical equipment 24/7 and could not leave the facility. They was very little available to residents of any faith. I did receive communion ONCE and I had to petition the staff to arrange for that. I remember bursting into tears when the EM brought out the pyx. She told me: "Its ok to cry, you're just overwhelmed because Jesus is here with you." I got choked up just writing that. There was supposedly a mass scheduled for once a month but like the hair dressing appointments the mass never happened. Being in a care home is akin to being in prison with the exception being that prisoners are given pastoral care. When Advent came, I lay in my bed and sobbed because I knew that on the outside brothers and sisters were attending mass and preparing wreaths etc. I felt like I was not in communion with our church and I tried as best I could to feel a connection. I read the Magnificat but couldn't watch the mass because the facility did not offer the channel on tv. By the time Advent was ending I was so distraught I demanded to be released AMA so that I could celebrate Christmas. It was not a good idea though and I had relapses of my illness to the point where on the day of Pope Francis installation I was rushed into emergency surgery right after the installation mass. 7 hours of surgery and luckily I lived.

Looking back it was stupid to leave the facility but it might not have had to happen if more could have been done to assist we Catholics in receiving the sacraments on a consistent basis. If I had been assured that a priest would come to hear confession, provide the eucharist, and possibly celebrate the mass I wouldn't have felt so desperately cut off and would have left the facility AMA. Don't ever assume that a loved one is having their needs met in a care facility. These are lonely places that do a good job at keeping the body alive but do very little to keep the spirit of oriented, young, or devout believers spiritually fed. I don't condone this couple's mock mass but I understand the desperation they feel and the hunger and love they have for our lord and savior. Now I am once again at home and out in the world but I can't forget what it was like to not be a part of it and to not know when I would ever receive the sacraments again.

August 13, 2014 at 9:22 pm PST
#9  PHILIP MCEVOY - BELLEVUE, Nebraska

At my parish we visit weekly three care centers and have a Communion Service, we have three Deacons and 20+ EMHC that rotate the days they serve. We also visit the homebound. With four other Parishes visit a local hospital everyday taking Holy Communion to the patients.
This make me sad that there are people in the USA that long for the Eucharist and no one to come.
If we know about a parishoner in another hospital we visit that person also.
Our KOC offers rides to weekend Masses.
We need to pray to the Holy Spirit to move more people to serve the Body of Christ.

August 15, 2014 at 2:03 pm PST
#10  Jeffrey Bridge - Kent, Washington

I could not find the original letter to the editor on the NCR website. Is there a link to it?

August 17, 2014 at 9:30 am PST
#11  Michelle Arnold - El Cajon, California - Catholic Answers Blogger

Jeffrey, the letter to the editor appeared in the print edition of the National Catholic Reporter, which is where I read it and from where I quoted. It may not be available online.

August 17, 2014 at 10:43 am PST
#12  Andrew Sondag - Dunnellon, Florida

I just moved away from a small town of Red Bud, IL. I am grateful that the good people there have a ministry of people who take communion to the sick at the nursing home on a regular basis. The nursing home even sets off a large room on certain days where the good priest of this parish of St. John the Baptist is able to say mass for those Catholics who are not able to make it to the mass. After reading this article, I am very much more appreciative of this service and the priest. Also kudos and blessings to this priest, who the very next day that I called, visited my Aunt who was dying to give her last rites.

August 19, 2014 at 1:21 pm PST
#13  Deacon John Szarek - Hanover Park, Illinois

I just completed a Communion Service at a local nursing home. Some family members informed me that there is no daily Mass available for the residents. EWTN is not offered on the cable package through Direct TV that was selected by this nursing home, nor is there a way to pay extra to have it added. So people who want a Daily Mass are not having their needs met. Additionally, volunteers to Hospital/Eucharistic Ministry, at least in our Parish, are lacking. It would be wonderful to be able to bring Communion to everyone who wanted it every day, but unfortunately if we as members of the Body of Christ are unable to find the time to meet these needs we only have ourselves to blame.

August 24, 2014 at 11:32 am PST

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