Everyone's a Critic

April 23, 2014 | 11 comments

Catholic Answers Director of Apologetics Tim Staples and I were bouncing around ideas for blog posts when he told me of two common, related questions he receives while on the road speaking for Catholic Answers. Often, Catholics he meets are extremely frustrated with the quality of the liturgy at the parishes they attend. They are on edge at Mass, wondering what novelty their priest is going to dream up next. Why can't priests just "say the black, do the red"?—a cri de coeur promulgated by the popular priest blogger, Fr. John Zuhlsdorf, referring to the priestly mandate to precisely follow the sacramentary as it is written. Catholics ask Tim these two questions:

  • How do I know when I should say something about liturgical abuses at Mass?
  • When do I know I should just give up that things will improve at my parish and start looking for a new parish?

Knowledge and scrupulosity

Soon after I became a Catholic in 1996, like many other new Catholics I wanted to learn all I could about my new faith. In my case, Catholic Answers was located in my diocese, so I started volunteering, in part so I could gain access to Catholic Answers' resources on the Faith. I devoured back issues of This Rock, the predecessor publication to Catholic Answers Magazine. I read all of the books I could charm the staff into lending to me (and I bought many to keep for future reference).

All of this newfound knowledge was great preparation for eventually becoming a Catholic apologist. But it came at a price. To misquote Peter Parker's Uncle Ben, "With great knowledge comes great scrupulosity." To choose but one example of this dictum, for years I could hardly sit through a Mass without seething over and worrying about priestly variations from the General Instruction of the Roman Missal. As was the case with those Catholics who approach Tim, I too wondered whether it was my responsibility to say something or find a new parish.

Then one day I read an article by Catholic Answers Senior Apologist Jimmy Akin wherein he discussed problems in the Church and how to keep your spiritual peace. I was especially struck by this story he told of ancient liturgical abuses and the folly of some reactions to them by outraged congregants:

One of Israel's more important national festivals was (and still is) the feast of Tabernacles (Sukkoth). In [high priest and king] Alexander Jannaeus's day, one of the customs for celebrating Tabernacles was for the people to bring luabs to the Temple and wave them in celebration. A luab was a bundle of branches from trees in the vicinity of Jerusalem—palm, myrtle, willow—to which a citron had been tied. A citron is a fruit similar to a large lemon.

While the people held their luabs, one of the things the high priest was supposed to do was pour out libations from two silver bowls—one of water and one of wine. According to the custom of the Sadducees, the high priest was supposed to pour out the water bowl on his feet, but the custom of the Pharisees conflicted with this.

Alexander Jannaeus, who was a Sadducee, followed the Sadducee custom in performing the ritual, but the Pharisees were so popular at the time that the people became enraged, tore the citrons off their luabs, and pelted Alexander with them in the middle of the liturgy.

Well, that's one way to deal with perceived liturgical abuses—though I wouldn't recommend using it today. (In fact, it didn't work so well then, either. According to the Jewish historian Josephus, Alexander took revenge by killing about 6,000 members of the citron-lobbing crowd.)

For years after reading this essay, whenever I'd see shenanigans going on during the Mass, my prayer for spiritual peace would be "Lord, please don't let me become a spiritual fruit-chucker." To be honest, I prayed that prayer primarily for myself. I was more concerned about keeping my own spiritual peace amid liturgical hijinks than I was about doing anything about them, mainly because of Jimmy's conclusion to his article:

People say that they can't stand something when they know full well that they can. They're simply trying to rationalize a decision they want to make by telling themselves that they don't have any choice.

You do have a choice. You have a choice how you will react to what someone else is doing. You can choose to react in a way that mourns whatever offense has been committed yet leaves your spiritual peace intact. Or you may choose to react in a way that poisons your spiritual life and robs of you of the peace God wants you to have. But it's still your choice.

You can't control what another person is going to do. But you can control how you choose to react.

Over time I learned that my own scrupulosity had much to do with my outraged sensibilities during the Mass. I was not always correct in my assessment of what was allowed at Mass and what was not. Today I praise God that I kept my mouth shut (for the most part) about liturgical abuses at parishes I attended because I know now that sometimes I was wrong that an abuse had occurred.

But let's face it. Sometimes lay Catholics are not wrong. Sometimes abuses really do occur during the Mass. Once we have conquered our own desire to metaphorically pelt an erring priest with fruit, how do we know when to say something and when to just move on?

When bad things happen at a good Mass

Here are some tips:

Be humble. You should first assume that it is you who is incorrect in your understanding of what is allowed. Assume the priest, who can spend up to twelve years being trained for this gig, knows more than you do about the liturgy. Keep in mind also the danger of applying a quasi-Protestant, sola scriptura attitude to Church documents. The Church rarely speaks in absolutes, saying that such-and-so must be done a certain way. Oftentimes there is wiggle room given for local conditions, to be left to the discretion of a bishop or a priest. Not only that, but sometimes documents must be read and interpreted within a larger context and not in isolation.

Empathize. Okay, so you are pretty sure the priest has done something wrong. Now what? Well, perhaps you might ponder what it might be like to have to do your own job with untrained onlookers constantly peering over your shoulder and pointing out your mistakes. Ask yourself if it is possible that the priest did not intend to make up the Mass as he was going along, but instead made a mistake. Sometimes mistakes have to be corrected. More often than not though, they can (and should) be overlooked.

Save your bullets. Sometimes you are right that an abuse has occurred, and sometimes you know the priest is doing the liturgical version of Whose Line Is It Anyway?, because he has said that he finds the way he's doing things "more meaningful," or "more inclusive," or "more [fill in the blank]." Another tip Jimmy once gave that I found helpful is to "save your bullets." Rather than complain about every little thing that goes wrong in a Mass, it can be wiser to not sweat the small stuff. If you tolerate the Kool-Aid pitchers and glass champagne flutes used to hold the Precious Blood; if you turn a blind eye to the risen Jesus over the altar instead of a crucifix; you may have more credibility later when you must protest those abuses that threaten the validity of the Eucharist. But if you are a known liturgical nitpicker, you are more likely to be ignored when you have something serious to report.

When to move on

The liturgical dancers are a-leaping around the altar; the choir is a-screaming a heavy-metal version of "Sing a New Church"; the priest is attempting to consecrate Snickerdoodles and Hawaiian Punch. Is it time to move on and find a new parish? In this case, yes, of course—and with a registered letter express-mailed to your bishop (and carbon-copied to the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments) informing him of the three-ring circus at one of his parishes. But, seriously, do things ever really get this bad? Or is it more likely that you are unsatisfied with a Mass not done to your specifications?

I have learned over the years that there is a tendency among some liturgically conservative Catholics to treat the Mass as if it were a Broadway play and they are the theater critics. Every small detail must align just so with their interpretation of the GIRM or they will unleash their outrage.

Now, I don't believe anyone starts out aspiring to become the Statler and Waldorf of the church balcony. It usually begins with small things. Grimacing over an unfortunate turn of phrase in the homily. Worrying excessively about the consequences of the priest bumbling some of his lines. Unchecked, it can build over time to frustration, then anger, then rage over every little misstep at Mass.

If this is happening to you, finding a new parish for the purpose of settling your nerves before they spiral out of control might not be a bad idea. But beware of church shopping. In a blog post published not long ago, I wrote about the dangers of trying to find a parish that you consider to be a spiritual safe haven:

I have to concede that church-shopping can be justified in rare cases, such as when you need to make sure that your children are properly educated in the Catholic Faith, or when the problems in the parish completely outweigh any benefit the parish provides. But church-shopping to find a parish that you think will be heaven on Earth will end in bitterness.

Parishes are rarely static—pastors are reassigned, liturgy committees change hands, religious education teachers come and go—and a parish you think will satisfy you could shift toward laxity within a few years. If you too easily throw in the towel and move on, where will your roaming end? For a former cyber acquaintance of mine who was disturbed by abuses at the parishes he visited in his diocese, his roaming in search of heaven on earth ended in sedevacantism.

If you need a fresh start at a new parish, go for it. But treat this fresh start as a chance to silence your Inner Liturgy Expert and to just be present to Christ in the Mass. Keep reminding yourself that, so long as the Eucharist is validly consecrated, Jesus is going to attend this Mass. If he can suffer in silence, so can you. 

The Mass must go on

Spiritual peace at Mass depends on deciding to accept what you can, to change what you must, and to discern wisely the difference between the two. Perhaps you recognize this advice as a paraphrase of the Serenity Prayer. The lesser-known second stanza of that prayer might make an excellent meditation for whenever you are tempted to throw some fruit at Mass:

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that you [God] will make all things right,
If I surrender to your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with you forever in the next.

Michelle Arnold is a staff apologist at Catholic Answers.
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Comments by Catholic.com Members

#1  Pegon Zellschmidt - Covington, Louisiana

I just heard that Pope Francis called a woman in Argentina who was a critic of divorced persons forbidden to receive Communion and had written him distraught over the issue. The pope told her that there was no reason she could not receive and the Vatican stated that they would not discuss a private conversation. Logically and prayerfully, if someone stated that the Pope said Jesus was not resurrected, it's a good bet the Vatican would have immediately denied it.
Can this woman receive without sinning on the word of the pope before a change is directed sometime in the future? If so, what does that do to any other teaching 'change' another critic has hopes for?

April 23, 2014 at 4:53 pm PST
#2  Christopher Travis - Huntsville, Alabama

Excellent article Michelle. I have heard so many complaints about priest's, mostly about their personalities and that they don't do it like so and so use to do. My heart sinks when I hear these complaints. I try to think of all the priest's that have been persecuted and how blessed we are to even be able to have Mass. Over the years, and in many parts of the world the faithful have not been so fortunate. These fellow Catholic brother and sisters who have had to worship undergoround because of persecutions would love to have any of these priests people compalin about. There is one image from the Cristero War, that took place in Mexico not long ago, that is seared into my mind forever, that is an image of a priest with his vestments on, his hands folded in prayer as four executioners had their rifles pointed at his head. That priest could be any priest, at any time, and any where in the world. So let's all be humble, pray for them, love them all we can and love them some more. No matter how bad they seem to mess things up, they can not change what takes place upon the altar, when Heaven meets earth and the real High Priest, our Lord Jesus Christ makes Himself present as both High Priest, Victim, and Savior. Praise be to God for those whom He has called to serve the world!!!

April 24, 2014 at 7:25 am PST
#3  Patrick Boulay - Minneapolis, Minnesota

I try not to pick. But I was visited a nearby Catholic Church and when they said, "Our Mother, Who Art...." I vowed never to go back.

I had to return to attend the funeral of an old family friend. The first reading was a poem. The second reading was from Martin Luther King. Then they performed John Lennon's Imagine ("Imagine there's no heaven....no hell...no religion.."

To ever go back, I need a really good reason.

Is my parish perfect? I honestly don't know. But I have never felt queasy there.

April 24, 2014 at 8:27 am PST
#4  Donald Parker - Middletown, Rhode Island

First, I do not agree that it amounts to 'scrupulosity' if I believe that a priest is in error.

Second, I'd like to quote Father John Trigilio at the EWTN Faith Q&As, topic 'Goodbye Good Catholics' dated 2/22/2003: "...Bad theology (heterodoxy and dissent) is supported by bad liturgy (irreverence and abuse) and both will proliferate bad morality (promiscuity, homosexuality, etc.)...." So, I believe that Father Trigilio would disagree with your position, at least, and would say that these are red flags.

April 24, 2014 at 10:35 am PST
#5  Sharon Whitlock - Rockford, Illinois

Bless you for writing this article!

April 24, 2014 at 12:31 pm PST
#6  Mark Jeffords - Ceres, California

Michelle, I really appreciate you writing this, thank you! I should add something though. When you ask,

"But, seriously, do things ever really get this bad? Or is it more likely that you are unsatisfied with a Mass not done to your specifications?"

I'm wondering if you've ever seen one of the Archdiocese of Los Angeles Religious Ed Conference Masses. Here is this year's closing Mass from the conference posted on youtube:


Archbishop Gomez presiding and several Cardinals in attendance as well.

This sort of thing has been going on for many years in the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

So, for many of us, the answer is yes, things do get that bad, just watch the video and you'll see what I mean.

April 24, 2014 at 5:06 pm PST
#7  Austin Nixon - Port Orange, Florida

For us born in the 1940's, trained by Franciscan Sisters in Elementary School and Brothers in High School and graduating in 1965, we were taught the 3 D's (Doctrine, Dogma and Disciplines) every day. This is what, in my view, make us Traditionalists as opposed to the Modernists predominately found today in the Church. I personally served as an Altar Server for 10 years with most of that time in the Latin Rite Mass (which conducted a High Mass every Sunday). This is what the Church did for the previous 1900 years. And then to allude to our condition as being afflicted with Sedevacantism is short sighted and bigoted. You would have to have walked in our shoes through our training to see where we are coming from. Frankly, most converts mean well but don't enjoy the deep training that was ingrained in us 'Traditionalists'. Hence, when we see things going astray, we revert to our previous doctrinal training and say" What the heck is going on here?" and if possible, react accordingly.

April 25, 2014 at 6:39 am PST
#8  Pegon Zellschmidt - Covington, Louisiana

#7 Austin Nixon: Ditto.

April 25, 2014 at 9:11 am PST
#9  Hans Pfeiffer - San Antonio, Texas

Great article and good thinking. I see the Church and Clergy defended and that's ok. Now please tell me why 75% of Catholics have left the Church or are no longer active . . .
Obviously they are missing something, in my humble opinion an adjustment of the Church to the communication challenges of the TOTALLY changed social environment.
Vatcian II addressed a number of issues from the past just to be superseded by a completely changing society while it was still happening. An "emergency" Vatican III would be needed ASAP considering input of the current society with a sincere look at the potential future development.
Problem is that Church leaders look more to the past trying to find solutions and excuses instead of trying to comprehend what's going on today and how to envision the future of the Church.
As long as they ignore input - I can show you dozens of examples where they do - the decline will continue. SAD!

April 30, 2014 at 7:57 am PST
#10  JOE OFFER - APPLEGATE, California

I think I know liturgy quite well. I was in the seminary for eight years and I graduated from college with a major in Theology, and I have been a catechist for 45 years. I read the GIRM in Latin, long before it was published in English. I hear all sorts of complaints and read lots really weird examples of "liturgical abuses," but I rarely see a priest who is guilty of more than a few minor infractions. I have occasionally seen priests lose their temper on the altar and publicly chastise the choir director or the congregation. I have seen priests drunk on the altar two or three times - now, THAT is what I call an abuse.

Back in the days of the Latin Mass, I think abuses were far more common because people didn't understand what the priests were doing. My Latin was good and I had been an altar server since fifth grade, so I knew. I think many priests did not understand Latin very well, so they went through the motions of the Mass without meaning what they were saying. The worst offense I saw during the days of the Latin Mass, was priests rushing through the liturgy. I used to serve Mass for a priest who was supposed to be a liturgical expert, and he could say Mass in eight minutes - we timed him, and there were times when he almost got done in seven minutes. Word was that eight minutes was as long as he could last without a cigarette. And that was another abuse - distributing communion with yellowed fingers that smelled of stale cigarette smoke.

Nowadays, it seems to me that most priests celebrate the Mass prayerfully, and do the best they can. Infractions of the rubrics are simply infractions, like driving 5 miles an hour over the speed limit. It's important for us to remember that minor infractions are not horrible, and really shouldn't be called "abuses."

Michelle, thank you for the compassion and generosity in your comments. You seem to have a lot of common sense.

-Joe Offer-

April 30, 2014 at 9:58 pm PST
#11  Kevin Saito - Honolulu, Hawaii

Dear Michelle,
I read a book on the Catholic Mass and one passage I read changed the way I viewed a priest's homily "performance" forever. I don't think I'm the only Catholic who's sat through a rambling and disjointed sermon and thought "is this the BEST this Father can do?" Silly me and shame on me. What I read and what changed me forever was the concept that even priests have "off" days and the reason why we're all together in the church during Mass is to celebrate together. Now, when I hear the start of a confusing sermon, I pray for greater understanding so I don't gloss over whatever the priest is trying to convey. Then I pray for the celebrant that he might receive a greater portion of the Holy Spirit (figurative speaking) so his words are better received by sinners like me. Finally, I pray for the person in the church who came to Mass just to hear THIS particular sermon. God is present in every Mass so there must be a reason this particular priest is giving this particular sermon. After I understood and applied this concept, my whole outlook changed. I have less obstructions to hearing the Word of God via His servant and I'm so much more thankful and happier. God Bless you and keep writing with the Holy Spirit's assistance!

June 19, 2014 at 5:32 pm PST

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